Courtney’s 2021

It’s typical on New Year’s to write a post reflecting on the past year. Although I have been mulling over all the thoughts and feelings on 2021 as a whole, I am opting to keep those thoughts internal for now, and I’m more motivated to document some of my personal experiences in this year-end review post. Read on for a bulleted list!

January

  • Went to the emergency room for what ended up being diagnosed as my first stomach ulcer. The cause seems to had been a perfect storm of naproxen (for back pain), triggering foods, and the stress from the January 6 insurrection.
  • Celebrated one year with our sweet kittens.

February

  • Hunkered down for the first winter storm of the year (10 inches of snow, if my memory serves me).
  • Made the decision to sell our house of seven years, the first house we’d ever purchased!
  • Spent a lot of the month sorting through and purging a lot of the belongings we’d accumulated over the past seven years.  Started moving out of our home gradually.

March

  • Completely emptied our house and did a bunch of painting and prepping for staging.
  • During the moving process, I injured my back so horribly that I could not get out of bed. Full recovery took a couple weeks, which unfortunately made me a bit slow with our prep for selling. I am endlessly thankful to Robert for balancing out moving, house selling tasks, and taking care of me through all this. <3

April

  • Staged and listed our house, and quickly received multiple offers!
  • Accepted an offer and the house welcomed its new owners by month’s end.
  • Signed off of work for three months as I started my three month sabbatical!
  • Got my first vaccine dose on the first full day of my sabbatical.

May

  • Started a daily habit of going for wandering walks and sitting in parks.
  • Got my second vaccine dose!
  • Got my hair professionally cut (with the return of the undercut!) and colored for the first time since
  • Voted in the special election.
  • Subscribed to MasterClass and started learning new things.
  • Bought a waffle iron and waffled all the things (favorite waffled food: tater tots)!
  • Met with a friend for the first time in a year and a half <3

June

  • Witnessed my baby nephew turning one year old!
  • Went for our first vacation since December 2019, to Palm Springs. I spent a heck of a lot of time doing nothing in particular, sitting in the pool and reading.
  • Went on multiple day trips to the Oregon coast (Manzanita Beach is our favorite) to sit on the beach and watch the waves.
  • Continued my daily habit of walks with podcasts, and sitting & reading in the park.

July

  • Went back to the movies for the first time in 19 months, to see Summer of Soul.
  • Traveled to L.A. to visit our close friends (incidentally, the last folks we traveled to see before the pandemic began).
  • Continued my daily walks and park sitting.
  • Inspired by a MasterClass, I picked up a DJ controller and started playing around with DJing.
  • Went to the art museum for the first time in years.
  • Went to Retro Game Bar for the first time, with my brother for some bonding time.
  • Wrapped up my sabbatical and went back to work!
  • Published a post of my recently consumed media.

August

  • Published a post with my thoughts on my sabbatical.
  • Bought an espresso machine and started to attempt to perfect my latte technique.
  • Traveled to Newport for our 9th wedding anniversary. Visited the Oregon Aquarium for the first time and enjoyed some more time staring at ocean waves.

September

  • Went on a hike to one of our favorite waterfalls for the first time since the wildfires in 2017.
  • Celebrated Robert’s last day of a job he’d had for 9 years, and his start at a new one!
  • Participated in a project with a group of rad AAPI women and non-binary people.
  • Rang in my 45th birthday by celebrating my inner child at Disneyland, back for the first time in 3 years.

October

  • Welcomed both sets of parents for a visit in Portland early in the month.
  • Celebrated Robert’s birthday with early dinner at his favorite restaurant, and a low-key evening at home.

November

  • Started a new role in Designer Experience.
  • Created a new office space at home (since I had been working from a desk in our bedroom since I returned from sabbatical in July).
  • Had a nice intimate Thanksgiving dinner with just a few family members.
  • Celebrated 16 years together with Robert <3
  • Got my vaccine booster.

December

  • Back at Disneyland at the beginning of the month to spend time with family!
  • Started a new hobby with Robert of assembling jigsaw puzzles together.
  • Celebrated Christmas with just the two of us at home for the first time.
  • Stayed up till 3am on New Year’s eve listening to records while working on a puzzle!

How I learned to stop worrying and loved my sabbatical

You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are.

–Mr. Rogers

My employer gives the gift of a 3 month sabbatical for folks that have been with the company for 5 years. I reached that mark this past April, but the planning for my sabbatical started back in autumn of 2020. At that time, I debated whether it was a good idea to take a sabbatical in the midst of a pandemic. But at the gentle urging of wise friends, I decided to go ahead and go for it.

In the months leading up to it, I was approaching my sabbatical like a project, because I wanted to make the best of this generous gift of time. I kept asking myself, What could I accomplish in three months? What goals should I set? What boxes could I check off?

Initially, I was super excited to start new projects, revisit neglected ones, learn new things, and return to work as an improved version of myself.

As a planner by nature, I made lists upon lists, only to find myself overwhelmed with the seemingly endless possibilities. Whenever I have these many possibilities, I find myself paralyzed with indecision on how to proceed. It got to the point that I felt like I really needed to reel it in and get to the core of what I wanted… not just out of a sabbatical, but from myself.

My teammates are always thinking of and are very giving to others, and I really treasure that quality about them. While this is a great and admirable quality, I have found that I have a tendency to over-deliver on it and lose sight of myself.

After some thought, I decided to lower my expectations for quantifiable accomplishments during my sabbatical, and concentrate on returning to work as an improved version of myself. To improve myself, I concluded that needed:

  • To get to know myself outside the context of work, home, and various responsibilities,
  • To treat myself with kindness, and
  • To accept and like that person I was getting to know again.

Getting outside

My most frequented park

One of the most important things I taught myself was to get outside. Not just out of the house, but outside my head. I found myself going on frequent walks, usually without prior planning for a particular route or destination. I made lots of neighborhood discoveries — gazing at gardens in full bloom; finding tiny libraries, fairy doors, and yard art; greeting neighborhood dogs and cats (and even chickens and tortoises); listening to orchestra musicians practicing in their backyards. I also spent a lot of time sitting in various parks, reading, listening to podcasts, and watching dogs play.

It turned out that it was really helpful for me to get out of the house, in order to get out of the context of the place where household chores and other responsibilities are always looming. This helped clear my mind to enable me to spend intentional time with and for myself.

Taking the idea of getting outside even further, as the time progressed I wanted to get out of the context of our town to reset a bit. We took a couple of local day trips, and eventually, once we were fully vaccinated, even hopped on a plane a couple of times.

Where the heart is

Part of nourishing my heart is spending my time with loved ones. I’m grateful that I was able to reconnect more deeply with my spouse and close friends, and I’ve been grateful for having family close by again. Maintaining these kinds of connections is important to me, especially during the pandemic.

The Rest

I listened to a lot of podcasts, played video games, read books, and watched plenty of movies and television shows. Because I cannot resist making lists, I published a list of everything I consumed.

Speaking of rest, I did a lot of that. It was incredibly restorative to be able to get the sleep my body needed (despite still battling with occasional insomnia, and a recurrence of some health issues from earlier this year). I wrote in my paper journal. I kept up with my therapy sessions. I meditated. I got my hair cut by a pro for the first time in 21 months. I got a manicure and pedicure. I cooked. I supported local chefs’ pop-up businesses. I drove around without a destination. I wandered plant nurseries with no agenda. I tended to my house plants. I assembled furniture. I sketched. I went to the art museum. Inspired by one of the MasterClass courses I took, I even bought a DJ controller and started dabbling in DJing.

These were all things that contribute to who I am! Reflecting back on all I experienced, this is the most “me” sabbatical I could’ve taken.

Interlude:
A video composed of 1 second of each day of my sabbatical.

Bringing it all back

I feel like I really had the time and space to get to know myself again, and I hope to bring my full self back to my everyday work. I don’t want to lose sight of who that person is, so I want to be more aware of when I am losing myself in my work and not having a good balance in my life, because that is what often leads me to stress and burnout. As I returned to work last month, I wanted to be aware of setting boundaries for myself and others, getting the rest I need, not overcommit and over-work, and asking for help when I need it.

I came back to work refreshed and ready to dive back in with a new and improved perspective, so I’d call my sabbatical a success.

Bonus: Link to some photos from my sabbatical. Lots of cats, food, drink, and parks 🙂

Recently Consumed

I hope to share some thoughts on my 3-month sabbatical from work soon, but for now, I’d like to record and share the media I consumed over that period of time. This should be no surprise to the folks that know I love lists 🙂

Podcasts

Top listened:

But also listened to:

Books

Games

  • Animal Crossing (of course)
  • Cozy Grove
  • Gone Home
  • Luigi’s Mansion 3
  • Mario Golf: Super Rush

MasterClass

I signed up for a subscription to MasterClass for enrichment. Some of the classes I consumed were:

  • Steve Martin teaches Comedy
  • Will Wright teaches Game Design
  • Questlove teaches Music Curation and DJing
  • Tan France teaches Style for Everyone

Television

I didn’t finish all of these series (finished series are denoted with an asterisk), but I watched at least some of the following…

Movies

  • Ali Wong: Baby Cobra
  • Black Widow
  • Bo Burnham: Inside
  • Daylight Savings
  • False Positive
  • Gunpowder Milkshake
  • I Will Make You Mine
  • In the Heights
  • James Acaster: Cold Lasagne Hate Myself 1999
  • Jaws
  • Luca
  • One Night in Miami
  • Roadrunner: A Film About Anthony Bourdain
  • Summer of Soul (…or, When the Revolution Could Not Be Televised)
  • Surrogate Valentine
  • The Father
  • The Half of It
  • The Skeleton Twins
  • The Vast of Night

Shops Owned by Gender Diverse Folx and Women

This is second in a series of “Shop Small” posts!

This post features businesses owned by non-binary folx, genderfluid folx, genderqueer folx, and womxn. Please feel free to comment on this post or contact me if you have any suggestions for online shops to add!

List last updated on 9 December 2020 at 20:10 UTC

Art

Food Related

Games

  • Pink Tiger Games: Sweet, kind games to connect people and make them feel seen and heard.

Health & Beauty

Housewares

Kids

Wearables

Variety

  • Female Trouble: Home goods, apparel, jewelry, etc.
  • Fuschia: Jewelry, apparel, and gift boutique with a focus on affordable, hand-crafted pieces, resale clothing, and lovely things for the home.
  • Garbage Humans: Earrings, pins, magnets, stickers, housewares, and more.

Shop BIPOC-owned Businesses

As we’re upon the season of holiday shopping, I have been focusing my gift-buying and wishlisting on small businesses. As I’ve been compiling my lists, I felt these businesses would be great to share with you all as you also navigate this season. 🙂

I’m kicking off this series of lists with businesses owned by Black, Indigenous, and People of Color. Please feel free to comment on this post or contact me if you have any additions!

List last updated on 1 December 2020 at 00:02 UTC

Art

  • BubbleSort Zines are a monthly zine series filled with stories and hand-drawn art and diagrams. Their store offers not just zines, but apparel and pins, too!
  • Anaya Paints sells prints and t-shirts illustrated by Ananya Rao-Middleton, with a lot of them chronically ill themed.
  • Made With Care sells custom hand lettered magnets, prints, and more.
  • Fifty5 and Dime sells Disney-inspired cards.

Food-related

Health & Beauty

  • Ginger + Liz, a company started by two Black women, sells vegan-friendly and toxic-free nail polishes.
  • Nola Skinsentials makes skin products for melanin based skintones.
  • Vive Cosmetics is a Latina-owned and operated beauty brand. Their lipsticks stay on under face masks!
  • Shop Latinx is a marketplace of lifestyle, beauty, and fashion products.

Housewares

  • EcoVibe is a sustainable lifestyle brand selling plants, home decor, apparel, and gifts
  • Melanie Abrantes Designs offers handmade and sustainable products, kits and classes for woodworking.
  • Nipomo sells blankets, totes, and many other wares from traditional makers throughout Mexico.
  • Wing On Wo & Co. is the oldest operating store in NYC’s Chinatown bringing you the best quality porcelain ware since 1890.
  • Saffron offers beautiful flowers, wares, and art.

Kids

Productivity

  • Passion Planner, my personal favorite paper planner, was founded by Angela Trinidad, a Filipinx artist and entrepreneur.

Wearables

  • The Wrap Life is a Black-owned business that believes that wearing head wraps is for everyone, because it has always been for everyone.
  • David Quarles IV designs jewelry — “culturally inspired design that speaks from the soul”.
  • Hija de tu Madre celebrates the beautiful mess that is being Latina and Latinx. Mainly apparel and jewelry, but also offering goods for your desk and some beauty products.
  • Lingua Nigra offers jewelry with rich textures, vibrant colors and meaningful design
  • KAFI KAFi CO. has beautifully designed scarves, ceramics, and art.
  • Brass Arrow by Noel Bennetto, who is an Indigenous American artist that creates hand-made/hand-dyed apparel, jewelry, and more. She makes many of her items according to the Moon cycle.
  • Warren Steven Scott, a member of the Nlaka’pamux Nation, is a fashion designer that offers earrings on his site.

Variety

  • The B.YELLOWTAIL COLLECTIVE supports Native American, First Nations, and Indigenous creatives. They believe in sharing art, fashion, and design to uplift Indigenous peoples.
  • Amano Seattle creates Mexican and Latino inspired crafts, gifts, art, and jewelry.
  • Art by Ciara sells original stickers, earrings, art prints, socks, greetings cards, enamel pins, and bandanas. Ciara’s art rooted her culture and the beautiful island of Guam.
  • Mau Loa Aloha sells a variety of face masks, as well as Hawaii-inspired jewelry, housewares, and shirts.

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