Friend Request

As always, a hot topic with me, social networks.

Today, an ex-boyfriend added me as a friend on Facebook. No huge deal, since we’re friended on a bunch of other networks, and it’s not like we have bad vibes between us. It’s just that we don’t really relate anymore.

What got me thinking was when I approved his friend request, and the “How do you know this person?” window popped up. Oh, this is a toughie. Sure, I could say “Met randomly” or “Worked together”. I could also say “We lived together”. I could also use that in conjunction with “We dated from xxxx-xxxx”, but then I’d also have to choose from a drop-down menu for “How did it go?” and furthermore, answer the question “And now?”. Dare I say “We hooked up”?

I clicked “Skip this step”.

Binge and Purge

I’ve always been one to jump on the latest and greatest social networking sites. I like to try out these sites out of my own curiosity, although every time I join a new site, I hesitate for a moment and ask myself, “Why?”

Ever since Six Degrees [now defunct] in the late nineties, I was compelled to make connections with the people I knew, through the magic of the internet. The world wide web made our own worlds smaller, and we were enchanted with the idea of connecting and reconnecting with people from near and far. With Friendster, we saw people get obsessed with collecting friends… some even likened it to Pokémon (Gotta catch ’em all!), which was rising in popularity at the same time. Friendster forever changed the definition of the word “Friend”.

MySpace brought social networking to a younger (read: mainstream) audience and made itself a part of the vernacular. From then on, it got ridiculous. Social networking sites sprung up faster than anyone could count, and to this day, invitations to join someone’s network litter our inboxes, and people foam at the mouth for invitations to the beta version of the newest networking site.

I feel that part of the appeal of social networks is in the ability for those of the introverted persuasion (e.g., geeks and nerds) to be able to connect to many like-minded people. We became social networking junkies, binging on forming online friendships. Why not? It’s so easy… we can be friends with someone by simply clicking a button!

Yesterday, I found myself purging my social networks of people I feel little or no connection with. It was still hard for me to delete/remove/de-friend some people from these lists, so I let some of them be. What if they found out I didn’t have them in my Friend List anymore? What would I say? How would I explain it? Is it easier to keep them on my Friend List to avoid confrontation? Would this confrontation even exist?

And why the heck am I so worried about this?

browser results

Okay, it’s been bothering me too much, so I had to find out for myself.

What are the top browsers being used to view this blog?

  1. Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 5.0; Win32)
  2. Mozilla/5.0 (Macintosh; U; PPC Mac OS X; en-us) AppleWebKit/8
  3. Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 6.0; Windows NT 5.1; .NET CLR 1
  4. Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 6.0; Windows NT 5.1)
  5. Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 6.0; Windows NT 5.0)
  6. NewsGator/1.3 (http://www.newsgator.com; Microsoft Windows NT
  7. Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 6.0; Windows 98)
  8. Mozilla/5.0 (Windows; U; Windows NT 5.1; en-US; rv:1.4) Gecko
  9. Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 6.0; Windows NT 5.1; Avant Brow
  10. Mozilla/4.0 (compatible; MSIE 6.0; Windows NT 5.0; .NET CLR 1

IE for mac doesn’t even break the top ten, at #14 on this list of browsers, a mere 6% of the 26k+ views of this page in IE 5 for Windoze. Glad to see Safari as #2. 🙂

I deduce it isn’t worth it to try and figure out the problem, since I’ll prolly change the design again in a few months. 😉

social butterflies in the stomach

There are way too many networking sites out there these days. Almost everyone and their mother (and some of their dogs) are on Friendster, so I won’t really go into detail about that service.

I will say that Friendster was the best one of these networking sites that I have used. I’m sure that we have all received emails from various friends/colleagues/ex-lovers to invite you to join the newest networking site where you can meet/greet/date/sleep with a friend of a friend (or, the more commonly acronym FOAF). We’ve all wondered if these things really work, are they just like collecting Pokemon?

You can decide for yourself… or at least influence a decision or two in the comments. Here are a few networking sites that I know of (feel free to add any that I missed):

  1. Friendster (duh)
  2. Ryze: Good for professional networking. Meet other professionals with similar interests!
  3. Tribe.net: I really like this one… as Xeni Jardin says, Tribe.net “seems to facilitate certain kinds of interaction (read: non-gonad-driven) more elegantly than some of the other services out there right now”.
  4. Everyone’s Connected: another “six degrees” kind of site, kinda crummy UI, but it does the job.
  5. LinkedIn: a very professional professional’s networking site. Good if you need a job, or need to fill a job.
  6. ecademy: another business networking site. I don’t know much about this one.
  7. Ringo: Not the beatle. The social networking site. Much like friendster.

Now, go forth and network to your heart’s content.